The pain pills generation

We live in a society that seems to have a great aversion to physical pain. 

We ever want to avoid it, as if this situation were rare, abnormal, or unusual.  

We are increasingly intolerant of pain, be it physical or psychological. 

There are people who, at the slightest sign that the pain is coming, take some pain killers to get some relief. 

They forget that if the cause is ignored, the pain will always return - and depending on the problem, it will be each increasingly hard and lasting due to the progression of the disease that caused it. 

Is happiness a must? 

On the physical health, if the pain is hard, actions are taken to make it go away as soon as possible. 

But on the emotional health, people live every day as if everything was good – even feeling that something is wrong.   

Feelings such as sadness, anguish, hopelessness, anxiety among others are often denied. 

It happens ´cause we live in a society of illusory, unreal, and artificial happiness, in which there is no space for negative or uncomfortable emotions.

Despite the insistence and perseverance, every effort made to deny will be in vain and very frustrating, since on the road of life there are not only perfectly paved streets but also many potholed and even unpaved streets - the last two amount for most people.  

To deny this reality will not help, because the problems will not get an end just of thinking this way. 

But in the society in which we live, sadness and other feelings are not welcome, as if they were not part of life ... 

Sadness is necessary

Nobody likes to be sad, but this is an inherent characteristic of the human being. 

Furthermore, we can learn rich lessons from unpleasant feelings, such as: 

- Greater flexibility to deal with frustrations. 

- Learn to wait. 

- Learn to listen and to say "no" when necessary. 

- Be aware that impermanence is part of life. 

- Understand that not everything (or almost nothing) is ever the way we want it and that we can control much less than we would like it to be under our control. 

- Learn to deal maturely and rationally with the hard fact that many times, even doing our best, things just don't go as expected. Or that everything goes wrong. 

- Realize that when we feel that something is wrong, it is very likely that it is really wrong. 

None of the situations described above will provide pleasant feelings, such as joy or well-being. 

However, denying these facts will have no benefit, while trying to learn some lessons will be very useful.

But you need to be ready and open to learning these lessons the life wants to teach you. 

Conclusion

We are in the pain pill generation.  

We run away from pain. 

This way of life results in many personal and social losses because, in addition to preventing personal growth, it also causes many disagreements, unnecessary confusions and heated discussions, which sometimes turn into tragedies. 

We all want to have a good and pleasant life, but that is not always possible. It´s hard to know, but it’s true.  

However, to deny reality only makes the situation worse, ’cause such an attitude doesn’t let us learn many lessons and/or changing the course of life. 

Remember: 

Joy is necessary, but sadness too. 

Smiles are pleasant, but tears are also necessary. 

As the beginning of new stages in life, the closing of previous stages is also necessary, although sometimes it is often very hard and sad. 

Just as saying "yes" and making the other person happy, saying "no" is also necessary to get limits and show to yourself how self-respect is so important. 

Life has ups and downs.  

Learning how to deal with them most healthily and smartly as possible is a big step that not everyone want to take. But it is essential in the way of those who want more wisdom, joy, and peace in life. 

Also, seeking to follow this path is a great sign of emotional growth. 

 

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